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THEIR TRACES LAST A LIFETIME! PAY ATTENTION TO THEM WHEN COMMUNICATING WITH YOUR CHILDREN
Unfortunately, today many individuals in society are directly or indirectly exposed to violence. Unfortunately, our homes, which we consider to be safe spaces due to the pandemic, are more dangerous for children and women exposed to violence than the virus itself. Turkey Medicals member and clinic Psychology Specialist gave information about violence and its effects.
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VIOLENCE IS A DESTRUCTIVE ACT OF ANY KIND
The feeling of anger, like other emotions, is among basic human emotions, but due to its destructive effects, its verbal and behaviorally correct expression is vital. Most people eventually learn to control their aggressive impulses and direct them to activities that are more accepted by society. The basis of this education is first of all realized in the family. Any behavior that harms someone else physically or psychologically is defined as aggression. Therefore, it can be said that aggression also includes violent behaviors. Violence is any kind of behavior and promise that prevents an individual from being injured, killed, or developing from a bio-psycho-social point of view. Violence is a destructive act of any kind, whether it involves physical or psychological elements, whether it is directed at a living being or an inanimate object. Violence is a result, and it is only possible to eliminate violent behavior by becoming aware of what is a factor in this result. It can be said that aggressive attitudes and behaviors are related to many factors such as parental attitudes, socio-economic status, social structure, and especially gender-based social norms.
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FAMILY STRUCTURE PLAYS AN IMPORTANT ROLE IN THE DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN
The child experiences his first social experiences in the family. Identification, which has an important place in the formation of personality, occurs in children through modeling family members. Thus, the structure of the modeled family plays a decisive role in the child’s future life, emotional and social development. Parental attitudes are quite important at this point. Children who grow up in understanding and consistent families are more social and sensitive in their relationships, while they can also be very successful in expressing their own feelings and thoughts. It is also observed that the ability to control their behavior is at a higher level in such children. In contrast, children of families with strict and authoritarian attitudes have a tendency to express their feelings and thoughts in more aggressive attitudes and have difficulty explaining their inner world. A child who is subjected to a strict and authoritarian attitude may feel the need to be constantly controlled by someone or excessive control throughout his life. In adulthood, they are far from trust and understanding in bilateral relations, they can show an oppressive and strict attitude. However, it is also worth noting that the parental attitudes of children with a low ability to control their impulses are overly relaxed, free attitudes in which there are no boundaries that realize everything they want. Therefore, it can be said that a reassuring, supportive and tolerant attitude is very important for a healthy psychosocial development.
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THE WORDS GO FROM THE MOUTH TO THE OTHER SIDE IN A FEW SECONDS. BUT ITS TRACES REMAIN FOR A LIFETIME
It can be said that negative childhood experiences, such as neglected childhood, constantly emphasizing negative behaviors instead of positive behaviors, disappointment, humiliation, and anger, are one of the most basic factors underlying attacking behavior. “Violence begins in language, turns into action‘. Stay away from humiliating words and behaviors when your child does something unwanted or says something. Violent behavior is an outward manifestation of the child’s emotional needs not being met. A child whose emotional needs are not met can try to satisfy his needs with attitudes that are not accepted by society. For example, a child whose emotional or physical needs are not met, are not seen, or whose daily routines are disrupted after his brother is born may express their emotional needs by exhibiting behaviors that are harmful to his brother or others. For this reason, the underlying needs of the child’s anger should be carefully monitored by parents.
Be consistent in your relationships, the actions of parents are more effective than their words in realizing the desired behavior. For example, if you ask your children not to hit their friend or break their things, and you are rude to them in order to eliminate unwanted behavior, you will put your child in a dilemma. Behavior learning here is not only related to how the child treats himself or herself around him or her. It is very important how the people around them also treat each other, what attitudes they exhibit in the face of the problem. Children who see that their parents show violent behavior in the face of problems may see this as a natural option for solving problems in their adulthood. Because children tend to learn from what you do rather than from your words. Instead of constantly warning children about what to do and what not to do, how to do the desired behavior and why it should be done should be explained using a language appropriate to the developmental process. As a result, for the healthy development of your child, instill in him a sense of confidence, guide him, let him explore his abilities, be an accurate model, meet the desires and needs of the child and show a supportive attitude when dealing with problems.
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Turkey's world-renowned organ transplant specialist. Dr. Demirbaş has 104 international publications and 102 national publications.
Physician's Resume:
Born on August 7, 1963 in Çorum, Prof. Dr. Alper Demirbaş has been continuing his work as the President of MedicalPark Antalya Hospital Organ Transplantation Center since 2008.
Prof. who performed the first tissue incompatible kidney transplant in Turkey, the first blood type incompatible kidney transplant, the first kidney-pancreas transplant program and the first cadaveric donor and live donor liver transplant in Antalya. Dr. As of August 2016, Alper Demirbaş has performed 4900 kidney transplants, 500 liver transplants and 95 pancreas transplants.
In addition to being the chairman of 6 national congresses, he has also been an invited speaker at 12 international and 65 national scientific congresses. Dr. Alper Demirbaş was married and the father of 1 girl and 1 boy.
Awards:
Eczacibasi Medical Award of 2002, Akdeniz University Service Award of 2005, Izder Medical Man of the Year Award of 2006, BÖHAK Medical Man of the Year Award of 2007, Sabah Mediterranean Newspaper Scientist of the Year Award of 2007, ANTIKAD Scientist of the Year Award of 2009, Social Ethics Association Award of 2010, Işık University Medical Man of the Year Award of 2015, VTV Antalya's Brand Value Award of 2015.
Certificates:
Doctor of Medicine Degree Hacettepe University Faculty of Medicine Ankara, General Surgeon Ministry of Health Turkey EKFMG (0-477-343-8), University of Miami School of Medicine Member of Multiple Organ Transplant, ASTS Multiorgan Transplant Scholarship. Lecturer at Kyoto University. Lecturer at University of Essen, Research assistant at the University of Cambridge .
Professional Members:
American Society of Transplant Surgeons, American Transplantation Society Nominated, Middle East and Southern Africa Council Transplantation Society 2007, International Liver Transplantation Association, Turkish Transplantation Association, Turkish Society of Surgery, Turkish Hepatobiliary Surgery Association.
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